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Enneagram coach training program introductory call

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, August 2nd, 2010

Have you found that you cannot imagine coaching without the Enneagram?

Our Enneagram coach training offered through the Deep Coaching Certification program provides an advanced, unique, and in-depth learning opportunity well suited for experienced human development professionals wishing to integrate the rich benefits of presence-based Enneagram work into their professional niche. If this sounds like you, please join me for a fr*ee introductory call on the program on Tuesday, Aug. 10.

I’ll share three robust principles and practices of presence-based Enneagram coaching that leads to profound results. You’ll learn about the program’s framework, how it is structured to support your continuing growth and embodiment of the Enneagram’s wisdom as a person and for more effective coaching results. And there will be time to answer your questions.

Go to www.deepcoachinginstitute.com and click on the registration link on the right column of the website.
I look forward to seeing you there.

LOGISTICS:
Tuesday, Aug. 10, 11:30 a.m.-12:30 pm PT.

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The Key to What You’ve Been Looking for in Your Life

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, May 3rd, 2010

The world is filled with people looking for the “key” that will deeply fulfill and nurture them.  Mostly, people look in the wrong places. In an old spiritual teaching, Nasrutin looked and looked for the pearl under the street light.  When asked if that is where he lost the pearl, he said, “no, but this is where the light is.”  As long as we look in the wrong place, we’ll never find the answer.

The Enneagram shows us the where the key is.   

This is the last day to vote for my newest Enneagram  book, Deep Living.  You can vote by clicking on the link below.  Let me know you voted by emailing me:  Roxanne [at] deepcoaching dot com.

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to what they’ve really been looking for all their life by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

 Thank you!

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Regis deadline for May 21-23 Retreat: “Your Journey of Growth” (Levels of Development)

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, May 3rd, 2010

This is a reminder that Tuesday, May 11th is the last day to register for  the Enneagram Institute -San Francisco Bay Area retreat.

We human beings are not static.  What creates the personality’s and soul’s movement, and how to be more conscious. compassionate and present to the many variations we experience in ourselves is the focus of this authorized Riso-Hudson program.   Specifically, we will explore the vertical axis of the personality and the movement to the Integration Point.  

It’s a fascinating exploration that we will meet with tenderness and spaciousness at the beautiful Mercy Center Retreat center, not far from the SFO airport.  Come let your soul rest.

Your Journey of Growth: Working with the Dynamism and Levels of the Enneagram

(formerly known as The Levels of Development: The Vertical Dimension to Personality Type and Guide to Greater Health and Transformation)
A Retreat Sponsored by Mercy Center

With Dr. Roxanne Howe–Murphy and Dr. Ronna Phifer–Ritchie

The Levels of Development (LOD), one of the most profound contemporary contributions to the Enneagram field and identified by Don Riso and Russ Hudson, explains the vertical dimension to the personality types. The Levels help us track our movement along a continuum toward more freedom, consciousness, expansiveness, and Being in the higher Levels (or toward more reactivity and self–destructiveness in the lower ones).

By introducing this “vertical axis” to the types, the Levels explain some of the most important things that we find in human nature–fluidity and change, resistance and conflict, freedom and compulsion–among many human qualities. Working with the Levels points us to where we are in our journey of growth, and guides us toward greater health and transformation.

Registration deadline: May 11, 2010

To Register:
http://www.mercy-center.org/Flyers_2010/0521Enneagram/retreat.html

Retreat Hours:

Friday, May 21: 7:00 PM–9:30 PM
Saturday, May 22: 9:00 AM–Noon, 3:30–6:00 and 7:00–9:30 PM
Sunday, May 23: 9:00 AM–Noon, 1:00–3:00 PM

Faculty:

Dr. Roxanne Howe–Murphy, Enneagram teacher and coach, is the founder of Deep Coaching (www.deepccoaching.com), the Deep Coaching Training Program, and the Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area. She is the author of the internationally adopted book, Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change.and a new Enneagram book this fall.

Dr. Ronna Phifer–Ritchie, Principal of Enneagrowth, is a consultant and public speaker. She holds a doctorate in counseling psychology and a master’s in marriage and family therapy . Phifer–Ritchie is a certified life coach and a researcher in early Christian studies and the Enneagram. She is the Co–Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area. She is currently engaged in a relationships project with Riso and Hudson. www.enneagrowth.com.

For more info:  http://enneagramcalifornia.com/riso-hudson-workshops/levels-of-development/

Read what others have said:http://enneagramcalifornia.com/testimonials/read-what-others-have-said/

Today is the last day to vote for Deep Living in the Next Top Author Competition. If you haven’t done so yet, I appreciate your vote to help bring this message out to millions of others:

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

 

 

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The Paradox of Hope

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Saturday, April 17th, 2010

I just had a rich conversation with one of my clients, where we explored the distinction between “hope” and “what is.”  

I have found this to be a tricky place in my own life.  After all,  hope is generally considered something uplifting, inspiring and forward moving.  We hear “What do we have if not hope?”  Isn’t this something we hold onto? Hope for happiness?  Hope for a better future?  Hope for a  better outcome?  Hope for a  better life?  Isn’t this is the basis for why many engage in spiritual work or coaching, for example?  Hoping that something will be better.

One could even have a type of hope about something in the past.  For example, have you ever wished that your parents had done something differently?  Or that someone wouldn’t have suffered the way that they did?  We could actually spend a lot of energy there, that can never have its wished-for impact.  I love the comment by Jack Kornfield that,  ”Forgiveness is letting go of the hope of a better past.”

This leads to inquiring about the different dimensions of hope.  

On one hand, hope can take a number of very active forms, with the ultimate effect  of resisting ’what is.’   For example, I  could  hope that another person would treat me in a certain way, or that a person would make a certain choice.   I could hope that I had more of something or less of something.   Take a look for yourself, and see what it is that you are “hoping for.”  Then, look at the outcome. What difference has it made?  Has it lessened or increased your unhappiness?   

Here are a few questions that I’ve found helpful for me.  When does hope become a want?  Where does this form of hope come from?  Is it from an idea about how things are supposed to be?  Is there someway that ‘hoping’ takes you away from looking at something inside of yourself?  What are the outcomes of the mental activity of “hoping?”

 What about the  hope you experience in your heart?   What are your deepest hopes?  I think this is where the teaching of Gandi supports us:  ‘be the change you want to see in the world.’  This is where authentic hope actually lives–in the embodiment of our lives.   What is it that we can address inside of ourselves that allows just this one person to make a shift?  When we make the change, then hope lives.  

Herein is the paradox of hope.

Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D. www.deepcoaching.com

Through the Power of Allowing, Discover The Wonder of Being at  Home in Yourself.  Herein lies real peace and your life’s truest expression.

Please help me promote this message of  loving presence by voting for my newest Enneagram book in the NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor


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Coaching your clients from Presence

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Friday, April 16th, 2010

In recent conversations with coaches, we’ve talked about how to best support our clients when using the Enneagram.  There is so much to learn about the internal world of each of the nine types or spheres of consciousness.  

It’s true.  The Enneagram is a vast body of wisdom.  It speaks to our intellectual curiosity because it has so much to teach. There’s so much information on each of types,  and sometimes, that’s where we get stuck.  In the busy mind culture that most of us live in,  the tendency is to want to understand it all, and understand it right now.  That’s why the Enneagram has often been misinterpreted simply as a “typing’ tool.  It’s easy for the mind to categorize and label and then come up with a few solutions to how to work with that particular type.

 But the Enneagramm also speaks to our hearts because we can’t help but be deeply touched by seeing how the nine egoic structures play out, and  the enormous unconscious suffering that is caused when we take the ego to be who we are.  When we penetrate below the structures, and see the true yearning that each individual has, we see that the majority of our unconscious behaviors are the ego’s way of trying to resolve the pain.    Our compassion for ourselves, for our clients and loved ones,  and indeed, for the world, is  magnfied a thousand times.  It’s a lot for the heart to bear.

And that’s why the Enneagram also focuses on the wisdom of the Body.  It is here, in the belly center (kath point or lower tan tien) that we come into contact with the 3rd center of our whole being’s intelligence.  As we develop the capacity to ‘be with’ this center, that our experience of ourselves in relationship to the world changes.  We have our substance, our physicality, our hereness, our inner power, and through this center that we connect with ground. 

When we connect to the foundational center, the belly, our hearts can open to and hold with such compassion the human condition. And from that place, what the client needs from our time together, becomes more available.

It’s a radically different way of approaching coaching:  with a depth of Presence that is developed through contact with the 3 centers of intelligence.   Coaches,  this counter-intuitive approach offers such value. It is based upon what is here, what is real, and not upon the mental agenda of the busy mind.  And from Presence, all coaching topics, from peronal and relationship issues to organizational strategy-planning  becomes cleaner and clearer.

http://www.deepcoachinginstitute.com/

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

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Your Journey of Growth through Vertical Axis of the Enneagram

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Friday, April 16th, 2010

Have you ever wondered why you are sometimes so open, flexible, easily able to navigate change, and at other times, you’re tense, constricted and resistant?   What happens that contributes to your experience of freedom and expansiveness, or to compulsiveness and even self-destructiveness?

With exquisite and almost uncanny precision, the Enneagram helps us understand the movement up and down the “spine” of flexibility and health.  The Vertical Dimension of the Enneagram, named the Levels of Development  by the Enneagram pioneer who discovered them, Don Riso, provides a  stunning richness and depth to our self-understanding.

The Levels have been endorsed by Ken Wilbur has said that it is this vertical dimension that moves the Enneagram toward a complete psychology.

On May 21-23 (Fri night to Sunday afternoon),  2010 Mercy Center in Burlingame, California, is hosting my colleague, Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie and I to facilitate the  ”The Levels of Development” Retreat (aka Your Journey of Growth: Working with the Dynamism and Levels of the Enneagram).    In this deeply personal work, you’ll discover that you are so much more than who you’ve thought yourself to be.

The beautiful Mercy Retreat center is about 15 minutes from SFO).

For more information:  http://enneagramcalifornia.com/riso-hudson-workshops/levels-of-development/

To register now:  http://www.mercy-center.org/Flyers_2010/0521Enneagram/retreat.html

 

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor


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From Inner Critic to Inner Authority

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, April 12th, 2010

Are you being tested?   

I’ve noticed that everytime I take another step in the direction of what my soul really wants, with what is aligned with my inner knowing, that some kind of resistance shows up with it.   I see this with my clients all the time.   The Inner Critic becomes particularly accelerated when you are on a path of real change and growth.

The resistance, the Inner Critic is not going away.   It can no longer be an ‘excuse’ for not doing what you are here to do. 

Rather than getting stopped by the resistance, by the Inner Critic, you can learn to * expect that it will show up, *be able to identify it’s many dimensions (and its variations, contingent upon Enneagram type), *recognize it for what it is (an internal structure that is Not You), it is, * take appropriate steps, and, surprisingly, find the Gem of Truth within it.

That’s what we’ll do in this Deep Coaching course.

From Inner Critic to Inner Authority

Changing Your Relationship with the Inner Critic Changes your Relationship to Your Life

Five Tuesdays: April 27- May 25    4:30-6:00 pm PDT by phone

You know the Inner Critic’s audible voice. We’ll shine the light on its more subtle or shadowy dimensions.  Experience the movement to freedom from repetitious mental, emotional and somatic resistance that hold you back from that which your soul and heart are dying to experience. You’ll find that there is more space for consciousness to be expressed through you.

Gain healthy and healing perspectives +  tools + resources +  support.   Deepen Presence.

Deep Coaching and Enneagram-based professionals, register here:  http://www.deepcoachinginstitute.com/courses/the-inner-critic-and-truth/

Growth-oriented individuals with some Enneagram background, register here:     http://deepcoachingservices.com/enneagram-telecourses-workshops/enneagram-telecourses-workshops-2from-inner-critic-to-inner-authority/

Join Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D.,  author of  Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, founder of the Deep Coaching Certification Program, and Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area..  This course is based on a chapter from her forthcoming book, Deep Living: Using the Enneagram to Connect You to Your Transformational Path ( fall, 2010). 

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

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How Do You Do Life? It’s such a Paradox

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (6)
Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Going along with how we naturally approach day-to-day living is the easiest and most natural thing in life. We are heavily conditioned to think that how we do life is life itself.

In other words, as we grew up, we naturally “identified with” our particular approach to life and took it to be the real thing—reality. Most people find it quite stunning to realize that their automatic way of living, thinking, behaving and doing is actually a configuration–a strategy– for managing the pain and difficulties experienced in life.  Unwittingly, this strategy often creates more unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

You’ve seen that there are nine Enneagram ‘types.’  The personality structure for each type has a way of organizing life around some core ideas about oneself and life that feels necessary, right and certain.

What you organize your life around is related to where you naturally put your attention.

Here are examples, each reflecting one way that individuals organize their life based upon the nine Enneagram types: 

  • Organizing life around “doing things right and being right”
  • Organizing life around “relationships” and” being helpful to others”
  • Organizing life around  “being the best at” and having others see how well I “excel”
  • Organizing life around ‘trying to find my authentic self” and ‘how I am different’ from others
  • Organizing life around “ideas and mental models”
  • Organizing life around “being secure and being supported”
  • Organizing life around “having fun and having freedom”
  • Organizing life around “being in control and “experiencing realness”
  • Organizing life around “peace and harmony”

Each way of organizing life is part of an internal logic that feels like “this is how life actually works” for individuals dominant in each of the types.

The problem is this.  That this internal logic is faulty because it is defined by the ego.   When you follow the ego’s dictates, this logic takes you in exactly the opposite direction from your soul’s deep yearnings.  It’s an astounding paradox of life.  What makes the most sense to the egoic self ultimately leads to pain.

The challenge is to recognizing the way you orient, what your life unconsciously organizes around….herein lies the great opportunity for awakening.

From the upcoming book by Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D, Deep Living:  Using the Enneagram to Connect You to Your Transformational Path

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

 

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The next Enneagram “deep” book is coming

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (1)
Wednesday, April 7th, 2010

It’s been percolating in the background for about a year–another book on the horizon.

After my earlier book, Deep Coaching:  Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, had been published, I was asked by a lot of professionals  if I had additional readings  that they could give their clients.  Of course, I referred them to my favorite Enneagram books, yet  there seemed to be interest in a synthesis/ companion book  that incorporated the main themes of Deep Coaching.

I can’t just sit down and write.  It takes time to see what is there to be written, if anything.   Now, I’m bursting!  I’m loving what I am learning as I write!   Literally, my heart feels so filled with love for the Enneagram and for this material,  that I can’t wait to share it.  It’s still a work in progress (aren’t we all?), but I can see the end in sight.

Essentially, the message of the book is

Experience being at home in yourself.  Herein lies real peace.  Invite youurself home through the Power of Allowing.  Here, you discover the  sustainable and profound life-affirming impact of Presence.

As I was writing,  I learned of an amazing competition that invited authors with a spiritual orientation to get support in getting the word out about their books.  So, I jumped in and am learning to swim in these new waters.

To learn more about my book, go to my Next Top Author page: @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor.  (In case you want to find me from the program’s homepage, my author number is 18.)  I’d love your vote to help promote my message.  Thank you.

I’d love to have you join me on this journey, so I’ll be sharing some different aspects of the book with you in upcoming weeks as well as some of my own process as writer.




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Inner Critic–Moving Beyond the Idea of the Gremlin

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (1)
Tuesday, April 6th, 2010

I’ve had have the great fortune of facilitating an amazing group over the past several years in a monthly Women’s Enneagram collaborative. The last couple of months we’ve been focusing on changing our relationship to the Inner Critic. Essentially, rather than taking the I.C. to be “real,” we see it for what it is–a central part of the ego’s structure that can take up enormous space in the psyche, and that can consume inordinate amounts of energy. Like the rest of the ego structure, it is trying to substitute for that which truly is real and eternal within us, which of course, it can’t.

Thus, as we grow in our awareness of how this particular ‘structure’ operates, we come to the stunning realization that there is a different kind of relationship to be had with the I.C. rather than taking it to be the truth, ‘making it bad,’ or ‘getting into a struggle with it” as if it was real. That’s why I use the word “structure’ —the I.C. can be seen as more of an “It” that operates on automatic rather than a ‘he/she/they’ that has been personified, taken personally.

I thnk we have to be careful about characterizing the I.C. as a “gremlin” or “that entity that sits on my shoulder,” because this is a way that we give it a sense of realness, and give it more power.

To work with the Inner Critic requires being able to notice when one is “at the effect” of its structure. There are lots of clues if we know what to look for. They show up mentally, somatically, emotionally, energetically and spiritually. Once we recognize them, then we can begin the process of stepping back from it, Unhooking from it, dis-identifying with it as something real. That’s when we begin to experience our inner authority.

And then, we have the courage to face the I.C.’s message, sort through all the falseness of its noise, and find if there is perhaps a Gem of Truth that is at the very core of the message. Finding this Gem helps us continue to grow and evolve.

Last night, I saw the women’s eyes opening wide.  For most, it was the first time seeing the Inner Critic as a gift.  Indeed, it can point you to something valuable, as long as you don’t get caught in the first wave of its automatic and egoic activity. Name it, call it out, distance yourself from the negativity or from its arrogance, as it shows up differently for different people depending upon one’s dominant Enneagram type.  Then, with clarity and curiosity, see if there is a gem to be found.

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