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The Unfolding of a Miracle at the Airport

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Wednesday, May 5th, 2010

On a recent flight out of Albuquerque, I had the pleasure of sitting next to a lovely woman who had a spiritual book out to read.  We didn’t talk until about the last 15 minutes of the flight, when she indicated that she “really needed” the guidance from the book due to a very difficult interaction with her brother who had yelled at her over the phone.   I could see that she was upset, though not overtly.   We conversed about the Inner Work that relationships (and all of life) take. 

After we landed and were in the airport, I saw her again.  She was working on releasing him from her expectations, and having compassion for his suffering.  “That’s all I can do.”

I was waiting for my connecting flight, and saw her again. She came over to me, with huge eyes almost at the point of tears.  During the flight, her brother had left a message and apologized.  He also said that his anger and volatility were ‘signals’ for help.  She couldn’t believe it.  It was the first time he had ever shown his more vulnerable side to her. 

We looked into each other’s eyes, and both said, “This is a miracle.”   It was a miraculous moment for the two of us, as well.

Her book?  A Course in Miracles.  My work?  The Enneagram.  We talked about where these two meet:  the gradual releasing of the ego’s holding, a gradual dissolving of the places where we get stuck in our false realities.   And the beauty of the work was so clear–she allowed grace to arise as she invited what’s real–love to be the focus of her consciousness. 

Is there an idea, a behavior, a reaction you are ready to release?   Your miracle is waiting for you.



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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Love, Presence, Relationships, Transformation, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Awareness, Consciousness, Enneagram, Love, Miracles, Spirituality

A Marriage of Opposites

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Wednesday, August 12th, 2009

There are times when Life seems to contain more than possibly can be processed.  This  happened over the week-end.

We were attending the really sweet and beautiful wedding of a amazing couple getting married in their 30′s and who have dedicated their lives thus far to working in refugee areas around the world–Darfur and violence-torn areas in Africa, for example.  She is a member of our extended family who has long held a special place in our lives.   This wedding was one of those pure experiences–no drama, no big underlying family dynamics, but an honest simplicity in which everyone was made to feel comfortable and welcomed.   Though a modest size wedding of around 100, there were guests from around the world.  Joy and love were palpable.

After the ceremony and dinner, celebratory dancing got under way and I could sense the deep connections that people were experiencing.  All of a sudden, the music stopped.  Someone was down.  It was a deeply loved man, the step-father of the bride.  Within seconds, she (a nurse) in her bridal dress and another person were working on him, doing  CPR with his heart and through mouth-to-mouth.  No breath.  No pulse.  Unconscious.  Loved ones in the room, of course, were in shock, tears and witnessing a scene that seemed from another place and time.  Paramedics eventually arrived, and after some time, regained a pulse.  Some of us gathered in the local hospital’s emergency waiting room.

After a long night and morning, the step-dad regained consciousness, and it looks like there is no permanent damage. It seems we have a miracle.  Had this happened to him when he was by himself on his boat, or driving in a car, or on a ladder working on his house, the ending would have been quite different.  Rather, it happened when all those he most loves and who most love him were right there.

That night, Love wore many faces and was experienced and expressed under paradoxical, almost unimaginable circumstances that were juxtaposed in such as way that is inescapable.  The paradox is always here–this one happened to be magnified a hundred-fold.  This is the way paradox works– it smashes any preconception about how “it” is supposed to work.   They put our ideas, beliefs, illusions, our cherished preconceptions right int front of our nose.  They have the power to awaken.

The sharing of this experience from people from many areas around the globe will be rippling out for sometime to come.  None of us will ever be the same.  Life is not what we think–it is itself.   

Blessings,

Roxanne

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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Being Present, Love, Paradoxes, Presence, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Love, Marriage, Marriage of opposites, Miracles, Paradox

Grief and Grace

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, January 7th, 2008

It’s been a long time since I’ve written.  I’ve been mourning the passing of my elderly mom.  She had surprised us many times when it appeared she was close to death, only to find yet another breath that revived her energy and spirit.  So, I had said good-bye to her before, but this time it was for real.

On the last day that she talked and had her eyes open, I told her that I was sorry that she felt so badly.  She was wheezing, her chest sounded terrible, and her good eye was starting to become glazed.  Yet,  she looked sweetly into my face and said, “Oh, I’m pretty good.”  And she meant it.

That was her approach to life.  “Oh, I’m pretty good.” “I think about other people and realize I have it pretty good.”   Over the last few years of her life as she needed increasing amounts of assistance, whenever someone did anything to help her, she would say “Thank you kindly.”   People loved to help her as she was exceptionally appreciative.   She gave a great gift to those around her by being naturally kind, gracious and accepting of others.

Her impact on others was apparent on her the last day of her life as family, friends, and those you have cared for her over the years came to say good-bye.  It seemed that people didn’t want to leave–there was extraordinary love in the room.  It couldn’t have been a more beautiful end to her physical life.

I will be in the grief process  with all its range of emotion, appreciation, awe and mystery  for the forseeable future .  One of the many great gifts that accompanies me on this journey is the experience of grace that has supported and enveloped this life transition experience.  I think of Grace as being attuned to whatever arises while being fully met by the Divine.   We are not alone.

I know that many of you have had your own experiences of grief, and even now may be experiencing the loss of someone or something precious to you.  It may be helpful to know that I have found great solace in the awakening work of the Enneagram. If you have a question about how the Enneagram can support your own grief process, feel free to contact me.

I will be returning to writing my regular blogs soon.  In the meantime, blessings to you all.

Roxanne

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Categories : Grief, Love, Uncategorized



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