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Archive for Presence – Page 2

A Marriage of Opposites

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Wednesday, August 12th, 2009

There are times when Life seems to contain more than possibly can be processed.  This  happened over the week-end.

We were attending the really sweet and beautiful wedding of a amazing couple getting married in their 30′s and who have dedicated their lives thus far to working in refugee areas around the world–Darfur and violence-torn areas in Africa, for example.  She is a member of our extended family who has long held a special place in our lives.   This wedding was one of those pure experiences–no drama, no big underlying family dynamics, but an honest simplicity in which everyone was made to feel comfortable and welcomed.   Though a modest size wedding of around 100, there were guests from around the world.  Joy and love were palpable.

After the ceremony and dinner, celebratory dancing got under way and I could sense the deep connections that people were experiencing.  All of a sudden, the music stopped.  Someone was down.  It was a deeply loved man, the step-father of the bride.  Within seconds, she (a nurse) in her bridal dress and another person were working on him, doing  CPR with his heart and through mouth-to-mouth.  No breath.  No pulse.  Unconscious.  Loved ones in the room, of course, were in shock, tears and witnessing a scene that seemed from another place and time.  Paramedics eventually arrived, and after some time, regained a pulse.  Some of us gathered in the local hospital’s emergency waiting room.

After a long night and morning, the step-dad regained consciousness, and it looks like there is no permanent damage. It seems we have a miracle.  Had this happened to him when he was by himself on his boat, or driving in a car, or on a ladder working on his house, the ending would have been quite different.  Rather, it happened when all those he most loves and who most love him were right there.

That night, Love wore many faces and was experienced and expressed under paradoxical, almost unimaginable circumstances that were juxtaposed in such as way that is inescapable.  The paradox is always here–this one happened to be magnified a hundred-fold.  This is the way paradox works– it smashes any preconception about how “it” is supposed to work.   They put our ideas, beliefs, illusions, our cherished preconceptions right int front of our nose.  They have the power to awaken.

The sharing of this experience from people from many areas around the globe will be rippling out for sometime to come.  None of us will ever be the same.  Life is not what we think–it is itself.   

Blessings,

Roxanne

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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Being Present, Love, Paradoxes, Presence, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Love, Marriage, Marriage of opposites, Miracles, Paradox

The Deep Coaching Movement as a Practical HOW to Awakening

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Saturday, June 13th, 2009

What does it mean to be a “Deep Coach?”

One of the  Deep Coaching course members intimately shared that over the course of the last 2 months, she has begun discovering the “subtleties” of  her personality patterns.  She mused that while we might read about Enneagram patterns  and be able to identify them at a more obvious level, that there’s a much greater depth and realness experienced  when we allow ourselves to come into contact with the ‘sneaky’ ways that the patterns creep into the cells of everyday life.  They do so often, but especially when ‘no one is watching.’

But she noticed the patterns when they were trying to sneak past her awareness!  She was so aware that she could see the workings of certain patterns and she could experience them WHILE they were happening.   This gave her the capacity to not let them become too ‘real.   She let them be patterns rather than “just who she is,” which helped her release some aspect of her old story about herself.  We should note that in this process of being aware, but not getting too involved with a pattern, the very nature of  Awareness begins reducing the power of the patterns themselves.  This is an extraordinary movement toward awakening.

For her, the recognition of the subtleties of the patterns and the shift in her relationship to the patterns (and thus, to herself) led her to say “Oh, I think this is what Deep Coaching is about.:  I think she would have added, “at least at this stage in my understanding”

All of us involved in the Deep Coaching movement using the Enneagram are committed to awakening–to our own journey of real awakening; and to be of service to others who would like support on their journeys.  This, afterall, is not a ‘solo’ trip.  We need each other to help us see what we can’t see in ourselves and to remind each other of the magnificence of our Essential Nature.   In this community of seekers,  our  shared impetus can more easily move through the inertia that would otherwise sidetrack us when we are on our own(as it has many times).

While I wrote the book, Deep Coaching,: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, none of us (including me) can yet realize the full meaning, direction or impact of what it means to be a Deep Coach.  I believe that  the ‘deep coaching process” will continue unfolding and teaching us with each moment of conscious awareness and presence for which we show up.

If you’d like to join us for this amazing adventure of awakening from a grounded, practical, yet far-reaching perspective, and deepen your learning about the Enneagram has to teach, we’d love to have you.  A good place to start is with the next Deep Coaching Teleconference Series starting in September.  Check it out at www.lifewisecoaching.com/certification-program/

Blessings, Roxanne

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Categories : Awakening, Be a Deep Coaching Practitioner, Deep Coaching - The Book, Enneagram, Presence, Self-awareness, Spirituality
Tags : Awakening, Deep Coaching - The Book, Deep Coaching Certification Program, Deep Coaching Telecourse, Enneagram personality types, Presence, Self-awareness, Self-knowledge, Spirituality, Telecourse, Tips for Awakening

Is Presence Really That Important?

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Sunday, April 12th, 2009

Earlier this year, I recently received a letter from my friend, Mel Duncan, co-founder and Executive Director of the Nonviolent Peaceforce, (www.nonviolentpeaceforce.org). This organization trains unarmed civilians in nonviolent strategies and sends them (by invitation) to violence-prone areas around the world. The NP volunteers help to protect human rights, deter violence and support local peace-keepers in creating peaceful communities. Mel was recently named one of the 50 non-profit visionaries making a difference in the world by Utne Magazine!One comment in his letter particularly struck me. Mel spoke about the one element that makes all the difference in the ability of the NP civilians to be effective in some of the most potentially violent situations in the world. That element is Presence. Presence creates the grounding, the space, the realness that allows significant changes to be made even in the midst of the most volatile of situations. It allows one to be responsive rather than reactive, and bring an indominatable sense of strength, not over, but strength in oneself. Presence saves lives!

Could anything be more profound and more important in this time of uncertainty and extraordinary change?  If Presence can make such an substantial difference in potentially explosive, violence-prone situations, what might it offer to you?  to your interactions with your loved ones?  with your friends and co-workers?

In a recent teleconference call that Enneagram Deep Coaching faculty member, Belinda Gore, and I were holding with Deep Coaching trainees, the discussion turned to how Presence saves emotional and spiritual lives, as well. Every moment we return to the present and experience what is truly here, make decisions and respond from what is available to us Here and Now (rather from our past conditioning), it frees us. It saves us.

As we enter this new time, I invite you to reflect on how the moments of Presence in your own life have saved something precious within you and have blessed your life.  The uncertainty, stress and discomfort of life can be tempered and balanced by remembering to come back into contact with what is real, what is enduring and what is–Here Now.

Roxanne

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Categories : Awakening, Peace, Presence, Uncategorized
Tags : Enlightenment, Enneagram Coaching, Peace, Presence
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