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The Unfolding of a Miracle at the Airport

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Wednesday, May 5th, 2010

On a recent flight out of Albuquerque, I had the pleasure of sitting next to a lovely woman who had a spiritual book out to read.  We didn’t talk until about the last 15 minutes of the flight, when she indicated that she “really needed” the guidance from the book due to a very difficult interaction with her brother who had yelled at her over the phone.   I could see that she was upset, though not overtly.   We conversed about the Inner Work that relationships (and all of life) take. 

After we landed and were in the airport, I saw her again.  She was working on releasing him from her expectations, and having compassion for his suffering.  “That’s all I can do.”

I was waiting for my connecting flight, and saw her again. She came over to me, with huge eyes almost at the point of tears.  During the flight, her brother had left a message and apologized.  He also said that his anger and volatility were ‘signals’ for help.  She couldn’t believe it.  It was the first time he had ever shown his more vulnerable side to her. 

We looked into each other’s eyes, and both said, “This is a miracle.”   It was a miraculous moment for the two of us, as well.

Her book?  A Course in Miracles.  My work?  The Enneagram.  We talked about where these two meet:  the gradual releasing of the ego’s holding, a gradual dissolving of the places where we get stuck in our false realities.   And the beauty of the work was so clear–she allowed grace to arise as she invited what’s real–love to be the focus of her consciousness. 

Is there an idea, a behavior, a reaction you are ready to release?   Your miracle is waiting for you.



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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Love, Presence, Relationships, Transformation, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Awareness, Consciousness, Enneagram, Love, Miracles, Spirituality

The Key to What You’ve Been Looking for in Your Life

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, May 3rd, 2010

The world is filled with people looking for the “key” that will deeply fulfill and nurture them.  Mostly, people look in the wrong places. In an old spiritual teaching, Nasrutin looked and looked for the pearl under the street light.  When asked if that is where he lost the pearl, he said, “no, but this is where the light is.”  As long as we look in the wrong place, we’ll never find the answer.

The Enneagram shows us the where the key is.   

This is the last day to vote for my newest Enneagram  book, Deep Living.  You can vote by clicking on the link below.  Let me know you voted by emailing me:  Roxanne [at] deepcoaching dot com.

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to what they’ve really been looking for all their life by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

 Thank you!

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Categories : Awakening, Being Present, Deep Living, Deep Living-the Book, Presence, Transformation, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Enneagram, Presence, Spirituality, Transformation

Your Journey of Growth through Vertical Axis of the Enneagram

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Friday, April 16th, 2010

Have you ever wondered why you are sometimes so open, flexible, easily able to navigate change, and at other times, you’re tense, constricted and resistant?   What happens that contributes to your experience of freedom and expansiveness, or to compulsiveness and even self-destructiveness?

With exquisite and almost uncanny precision, the Enneagram helps us understand the movement up and down the “spine” of flexibility and health.  The Vertical Dimension of the Enneagram, named the Levels of Development  by the Enneagram pioneer who discovered them, Don Riso, provides a  stunning richness and depth to our self-understanding.

The Levels have been endorsed by Ken Wilbur has said that it is this vertical dimension that moves the Enneagram toward a complete psychology.

On May 21-23 (Fri night to Sunday afternoon),  2010 Mercy Center in Burlingame, California, is hosting my colleague, Dr. Ronna Phifer-Ritchie and I to facilitate the  ”The Levels of Development” Retreat (aka Your Journey of Growth: Working with the Dynamism and Levels of the Enneagram).    In this deeply personal work, you’ll discover that you are so much more than who you’ve thought yourself to be.

The beautiful Mercy Retreat center is about 15 minutes from SFO).

For more information:  http://enneagramcalifornia.com/riso-hudson-workshops/levels-of-development/

To register now:  http://www.mercy-center.org/Flyers_2010/0521Enneagram/retreat.html

 

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor


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Categories : Awakening, Being Present, Enneagram, Essential Nature, Presence, Seekers - Enneagram Workshops, Self-awareness, Spirituality, Transformation, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Enneagram, Enneagram personality types, Enneagram Workshop, Levels of development, Riso-Hudson, Vertical Dimension of Personality

From Inner Critic to Inner Authority

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Monday, April 12th, 2010

Are you being tested?   

I’ve noticed that everytime I take another step in the direction of what my soul really wants, with what is aligned with my inner knowing, that some kind of resistance shows up with it.   I see this with my clients all the time.   The Inner Critic becomes particularly accelerated when you are on a path of real change and growth.

The resistance, the Inner Critic is not going away.   It can no longer be an ‘excuse’ for not doing what you are here to do. 

Rather than getting stopped by the resistance, by the Inner Critic, you can learn to * expect that it will show up, *be able to identify it’s many dimensions (and its variations, contingent upon Enneagram type), *recognize it for what it is (an internal structure that is Not You), it is, * take appropriate steps, and, surprisingly, find the Gem of Truth within it.

That’s what we’ll do in this Deep Coaching course.

From Inner Critic to Inner Authority

Changing Your Relationship with the Inner Critic Changes your Relationship to Your Life

Five Tuesdays: April 27- May 25    4:30-6:00 pm PDT by phone

You know the Inner Critic’s audible voice. We’ll shine the light on its more subtle or shadowy dimensions.  Experience the movement to freedom from repetitious mental, emotional and somatic resistance that hold you back from that which your soul and heart are dying to experience. You’ll find that there is more space for consciousness to be expressed through you.

Gain healthy and healing perspectives +  tools + resources +  support.   Deepen Presence.

Deep Coaching and Enneagram-based professionals, register here:  http://www.deepcoachinginstitute.com/courses/the-inner-critic-and-truth/

Growth-oriented individuals with some Enneagram background, register here:     http://deepcoachingservices.com/enneagram-telecourses-workshops/enneagram-telecourses-workshops-2from-inner-critic-to-inner-authority/

Join Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D.,  author of  Deep Coaching: Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, founder of the Deep Coaching Certification Program, and Director of the Enneagram Institute of the San Francisco Bay Area..  This course is based on a chapter from her forthcoming book, Deep Living: Using the Enneagram to Connect You to Your Transformational Path ( fall, 2010). 

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Being Present, Deep Living, Deep Living-the Book, Inner Critic, Presence, Self-awareness, Spirituality, Stress and Well-being, Transformation, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Enneagram, Enneagram Coaching, Inner Authority, Inner Critic, Presence, Spirituality, Telecourse

How Do You Do Life? It’s such a Paradox

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (6)
Thursday, April 8th, 2010

Going along with how we naturally approach day-to-day living is the easiest and most natural thing in life. We are heavily conditioned to think that how we do life is life itself.

In other words, as we grew up, we naturally “identified with” our particular approach to life and took it to be the real thing—reality. Most people find it quite stunning to realize that their automatic way of living, thinking, behaving and doing is actually a configuration–a strategy– for managing the pain and difficulties experienced in life.  Unwittingly, this strategy often creates more unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

You’ve seen that there are nine Enneagram ‘types.’  The personality structure for each type has a way of organizing life around some core ideas about oneself and life that feels necessary, right and certain.

What you organize your life around is related to where you naturally put your attention.

Here are examples, each reflecting one way that individuals organize their life based upon the nine Enneagram types: 

  • Organizing life around “doing things right and being right”
  • Organizing life around “relationships” and” being helpful to others”
  • Organizing life around  “being the best at” and having others see how well I “excel”
  • Organizing life around ‘trying to find my authentic self” and ‘how I am different’ from others
  • Organizing life around “ideas and mental models”
  • Organizing life around “being secure and being supported”
  • Organizing life around “having fun and having freedom”
  • Organizing life around “being in control and “experiencing realness”
  • Organizing life around “peace and harmony”

Each way of organizing life is part of an internal logic that feels like “this is how life actually works” for individuals dominant in each of the types.

The problem is this.  That this internal logic is faulty because it is defined by the ego.   When you follow the ego’s dictates, this logic takes you in exactly the opposite direction from your soul’s deep yearnings.  It’s an astounding paradox of life.  What makes the most sense to the egoic self ultimately leads to pain.

The challenge is to recognizing the way you orient, what your life unconsciously organizes around….herein lies the great opportunity for awakening.

From the upcoming book by Roxanne Howe-Murphy, Ed.D, Deep Living:  Using the Enneagram to Connect You to Your Transformational Path

“On the transformational journey, one size does not fit all.  There is a path that connects with YOUR inner experience. Find it and you’ll have the KEY you’ve been looking for.”   Please help  users find the KEY to their growth by voting for Roxanne’s next Enneagram book, Deep Living, at the   NextTopAuthor competition at @ http://bit.ly/NextTopAuthor

 

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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Being Present, Deep Living, Organizing Principles, Peace, Presence, Seekers - Enneagram Workshops, Self-awareness, Spirituality, Stress and Well-being, Transformation, Uncategorized
Tags : Awakening, Enneagram, Enneagram personality types, Self-awareness, Self-knowledge

Fall Deep Coaching (Enneagram-based) Courses Starting Soon!

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (3)
Wednesday, August 12th, 2009

What is Being Asked of Growth-Oriented Professionals

As the world continues to change dramatically, growth-oriented professionals are being asked to be clearer, more grounded, more-intune with their client’s inner world and reality while staying grounded in the ability to be a Fair Witness and truthful guide.

Who Becomes a Deep Coaching Practitioner?

The Deep Coaching Program attracts coaches from many specialty niches, therapists, spiritual guides, HR and OD consultants, body/energy workers–any professional with a growth-oriented practice.  Common factors among those attracted are the deep desire to bring awakening into the world and a love of working with the Enneagram.

If you have a calling to “bring your greatest joy to meet the world’s great hunger” (F. Buechner),  this may be the perfect ‘professional home’  for you.

Fall Course Offerings

We have an amazing line-up of offerings for Fall, 09:

* The Deep Coaching Practice Circle (for those who have taken foundation Enneagram coaching classes) starts Aug. 25

* The Foundation Deep Coaching Telecourse Series with founding teacher Roxanne Howe-Murphy begins Sept. 1

* The Deep Leadership Coaching Practice Circle with Belinda Gore (for those with foundation Enneagram coaching courses) begins Sept. 3.

* Know Your Instincts–a brand new telecourse open to all interested in personal and professional growthwork-with Roxanne Howe-Murphy begins Sept. 10

* Deep Coaching Retreat: A Living Experience of the Enneagram with Roxanne Howe-Murphy and Belinda Gore will be held Oct. 18-22.

For more information on the program, go to: http://lifewisecoaching.com/deep-coaching-certification/

Classes start soon!  Register Now!

Experience the Hallmarks of Deep Coaching!  Depth, Presence, Real Change, Liberation!



Each course in this program contributes to integrating and embodying Deep Coaching principles and builds on your use of Deep Coaching Models; approaches the use of the Enneagram from a different perspective, each offering deepening levels of clarity, insight, knowledge, confidence and appreciation that comes with this potent body of wisdom.


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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Be a Deep Coaching Practitioner, Being Present, Enneagram, Self-awareness, Spirituality, Transformation, Uncategorized

Amazing Grace (The Movie, 2007)

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Friday, November 21st, 2008

We’re in the midst of a historical arc that revolves around individual and social transformation. While I haven’t written about good movies that I love before, I now feel moved to write about this one because it illustrates another transformational period in time.   Based on a true story, this historical and political drama shows us an important arc of history that changed the world as it was known at that time, and planted at least some of the seeds for where we are today.

Have you heard of William Wilburforce?  Perhaps if you’re English, you know his story.  But, I hadn’t heard about him before I saw Amazing Grace. It is stunning to me that his name isn’t more widely known.

There are times in history when some individuals become remarkable through the depth and expression of their commitment to high values.  Wilburforce is one of those individuals.  Torn between a life “dedicated to God,” and a life in the political arena where he could make a difference, he comes to grips with his calling.

This is a powerful story of an abolitionist who tirelessly fights not only the “establishment” but his inner demons.  It’s worth renting.  (By the way, I see that there are numerous movies called “Amazing Grace.”  This one is  directed by Michael Apted and starts Ioan Gruffudd, Albert Finney, Michael Gambon, Rufus Sewell and Toby Jones.)

If you see it, let me know what you think Wilburforce’s type is.  I’d love to hear your opinion.

Blessings, Roxanne

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Categories : Awareness, Spirituality, Transformation, Transition, Uncategorized
Tags : Cultural Transformation, Movies, Spirituality, The Big Picture, Transformation

Could this be the beginning of healing? Obama Strikes a Doh

By Roxanne Howe Murphy · Comments (0)
Tuesday, March 18th, 2008

I have refrained from getting into the political discussion on this blog. And this really is not a foray into politics.  Rather, it is reflection on the spiritual message that I took from listening to Barack Obama talking so candidly and courageously about the racial divide in the United States.  Regardless of one’s political persuasion, this speech was a watershed moment in the history of the U.S.   When have we heard any leader, especially in a presidential election cycle, talk so publically and directly  about the hidden sufferings borne everyday by people, regardless of their color?

I was deeply touched by Obama’s NAMING of some aspect of the internal experiences of blacks, of whites, and of immigrants.  This required a depth of understanding coupled with the courage and capacity to talk in a reasoned, non-reactive way about the pains and “perceptions of the ‘so-called-other’ ”  in “mixed” racial  and ethnic company.

At an individual level, I have always found that when someone  who seeks real healing names a painful inner experience and brings it into the light of awareness so that it can be understood more clearly, something about that inner experience begins to change.  It can no longer hide below the surface of life where it may have festered for decades, and maybe for generations. When a suffering, a hardship, anger or resentment, grief,  shame or any other feeling- memory is brought into the light of awareness, it loses some of its ‘festering’ power.   To do this on an individual level can be immensely freeing and sometimes life-altering.  To do this at the collective level has the power to redirect the course of history.

Gurdjieff, an esoteric teacher who first introduced the Enneagram as a tool of awakening to the Western world at the turn of the 20th century,  called this type of action ’striking a doh.’   That is, even when things are seemingly static, they can’t continue in this state for a long period.  When the inevitable change occurs, it typically follows a trajectory downward or upward–things get better or they get worse.  When a conscious ’doh’ is struck, the trajectory is changed and consciousness has a chance of awakening.

One speech, one person, (or as Obama himself said,  one “single candidate, particularly–particularly a candidacy as imperfect as my own” will not change the world.  But it does create the opening and the oportunity for a new level of discourse and inquiry, honesty and vulnerability, caring and curiosity,  realness and intentionality that can contribute to the healing that is so desperately needed.  I see this as an invitation to allow personal hidden sufferings to be brought into the light of our own awareness, compassion and love; and then to let them dissolve so that our hearts may open more to ourselves and to each other.  This is the time.  If not now, when?

To ‘strike a doh’ in your own life,  join me in an upcoming workshop or retreat to learn more about yourself, about others and to heal with the support of the Enneagram.  The time for our awakening is now. www.lifewisecoaching.com

Roxanne

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Categories : Awakening, Awareness, Gurdjieff, Obama, Transformation, Uncategorized



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